Thursday, August 23, 2012

This precious girl who’s captured my heart I love her so much from the very start We were born on the same day just a month apart She loves "Family" and hates to part She has an unsurpassed passion for parties And is generous with her chocolates and smarties She likes to read and to help me bake And marvels at everything I make When I see her planning and executing a surprise I feel like I have won some special prize My darling niece turns six today She’s taken after me in every way (Yaay!) Wonder what her parents have to say?! Happy Birthday dear Anjali, Very Happy Birthday.

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

New Happenings

The month of Feb so many new advents. Kushal and Arya have started guitar lessons at Yamaha on Sat afternoons. They are 2 lessons down and are greatly enjoying. They have different timings but the same teacher, so mostly the homework is going to be the same. I have signed up for Spanish lessons on Monday evenings, starting next Monday, with Vani and Nikita. Think it's going to be great fun. I remember when I wanted to master a lot of languages and a lot of dance forms. Maybe this year will see me make progress towards that goal.
This year for the first time, Kushal wanted to celebrate his own birthday. That's surely a first, I must be a good influence on him. We baked him a nice homemade cake and he took care of the rest of the food. He had only his few favorite people invited :-) and he was reluctant to even open any of his birthday presents.
We have been exercising regularly, one of these days I walked for 18km. The very next day I saw a python on the trail. That put me off the jogging track for a while.
I went to Rupee Room for a Girls nite, had fun with some new friends. Also watched a movie with Monisha - Bride Wars, it was cute. We also watched Slumdog Millionaire and liked it a lot, K liked it especially. But have heard so many detractors criticizing it that it almost feels like many people watched the same movie but took away different things. Waiting with bated breath to see how many oscars it bags. It got 4 Golden Globe awards.

Saturday, January 10, 2009

Happy New Year

10 days into 2009, I am updating the blog to talk about the resolutions that are going well. I did read a couple of books. Predictably Irrational by Dan Ariele and a chicklit book Beauty Shop for Rent by Laura Bowers. I am halfway into Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. So I am doing well on the reading new year resolution. 3 cheers for audio books.
K and I are hitting the gym with alarming regularity and I have also started taking the 40 min route while walking to and from work. While walking alone, I listen to the audiobooks, thereby knocking off 2 resolutions in 1.
Interrupted by an interesting program on TV. Will be back

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Another Year Ends

It's that time of the year when you do a performance review and I am wondering how I fared. I hadn't written down my goals for 2008, but I guess I know what I wanted to achieve. Here goes in no particular order of importance -

Go back to pre-pregnancy weight of 52kg. Haha, Arya is now 10 yrs old and I am still hovering in the 58-60kg zone, so far away from my goal. So this is something which I definitely need to work on for 2009

Read more books. I fell woefully short of this too. I could not infact complete a couple of books that I had started. I didn't put a number on this. I can remember that I did manage to read Shobha De's Superstar India, infact I even went to the Book launch, but I couldn't make time to go to at least 2 more book launches that I did want to go to

Write. Again, as you can see on the blog, this is my first post of 2008. Yucks! Never thought I could get that lazy or that complacent. Watched a movie Ghajini where the protagonist suffers from short-term memory loss, and it actually inspired me to write my diary, this blog.

Dance - Ok this I did aplenty. I continued with the dance classes that I started last year, although the josh had died down quite a bit. My number of students have receeded too. But surprise surprise, it's Arya who wants to learn dance from me earnestly now. So I am going to definitely focus my energies on getting her to do more activities and regular dance practice

Keep in touch with the family - Yes, I have been hard at work, keeping in touch with all my family and with special emphasis on my parents. Papa had another heart attack this year, I know that's not good. I try to talk and chat with them as much as I can. Looking forward to the big family vacation when Yogita gets married May 23

Do more stuff with Arya - I don't think I can do enough with her. 2009 calls for more, after all she'll be a year older and many times smarter. Looking forward to more outings, library visits, dance classes, movies, the list goes on

Do more stuff with Kushal - I think we made progress this year. We have partied a lot, he's definitely more outgoing and finally planning vacations as well. I also discovered that I can bake :-) which means I can spend more time in the kitchen with him. As for photography, I continue to want to be in front of the camera rather than behind it. So I have to work quite a bit on that. He bought me a pink cybershot camera which is too cool.

Do more with Max - When Lorena told me a few days ago that she is going away, after she gets married, I realized how much Max is going to miss her. I have made up my mind to take him out for walks more often and give him a bath etc. Poor Max, I haven't spent much time with him at all.

Special wish for 2009 - Hope there's peace and goodwill everywhere. As for me, I want to continue to do my bit to help.

Saturday, November 10, 2007

Baby Aji is no more

No words of comfort can wipe away the tears that we shed for Baby Aji. Baby was what she was fondly called by my grandpa and I made her Baby Aji. She was Vahini to most because she was the oldest bahu in a brood of 12.Kamal Shanbag became Shobha Prabhu when she married by grandpa. She was Aai to her children and Aditi, who spent her first 5 years in her chatrachaya.
Being her oldest grandchild, I had the pleasure of delivering to her, the title of Great Grandmother by way of Arya, and Atul followed suit with his own contribution, the little Anjali. As she had for so many babies before, she knitted a sweater and a woollen cap and little socks for her latest heroine and thanks to Skype, she even saw her walk. Anjali will only see Baby Aji in photos though.
There is so much to say about Baby Aji and somehow I don't want to believe that she is no more. She did leave a little part of her in all of us. It is impossible to let go of her.

Thursday, August 09, 2007

Happy National Day Singapore

Wow, I seem to be able to log in only one entry every month, which is bad considering that I flaunt the fact that I love to write.

First things first, it's Singapore's 42nd National Day. I was wearing Red and White at work yesterday and imagine my surprise that the only other person doing that was American. In our condo, we have a potluck party tonight to celebrate both National Day and the incorporation of the Management committee. Arya had to wear Red and White too, and we went to buy her a Red t-shirt a day earlier. Can you really believe that MY daughter did not own a single Red T-shirt? I was quite taken aback with this discovery. Red is her favorite color too. But she just never asks for anything.

The next piece of FANTASTIC news is that I got promoted at work. I have just been here for a year and it feels absolutely great to get your efforts rewarded so swiftly. I am all motivated and happy. Also by a lucky chance, there is a Customer event in Austin from 21-23 Aug, which I am going for in my new and exalted role ;-) which is perfect because I can go to Anjali's birthday on the 24th.

And then something which made me sigh with satisfaction was the fact that K finally finally finally gave me a Surprise Birthday Party. The odds were all stacked up against a chance of that ever happening in this lifetime. We've spent 10 years together and never have I been given a surprise. My birthday especially has been celebrated mostly by me - I am such a birthday fanatic. But this 34th birthday was different. I went to work and there were 3 cards on my desk from my department and other colleagues. Then there was a beautiful bouquet in the most perfect mishmash of colours. It made my day and coincidentally matched my dress too. Then Sara and Lit Yang took me out to lunch at Go India in Vivocity, they were both all dolled up just for me and my special day. LY left early for a meeting she said, but it was really to get my cake, HaagenDaaz macadmia nuts and vanilla icecream cake, it had pink colored white chocolate shavings on it...wow it was such a dreamy, yummy cake. But I didn't know that yet, as I was tucking in the last bits of dessert at Go India! And Sara bought Godiva Truffes and we headed out to office. Everyone was waiting in the dark with the cake and candles all lit up. I wish I had taken a picture, but I was just too shocked. Such a sweet shock - Godiva Chocolates and Haagen daaz icecream..ooh! my friends know me only too well. Plus the fact that almost everyone who worked with me had been sitting patiently in a dark room waiting. I was truly surprised and grateful.

And then, Kushal came early like he said he would and we were all dressed up to have a quiet dinner at Sentosa. Oh by the way, Kushal had bought my favorite Chocolate Indulgence cake the previous night and that was a surprise too :-) We didn't manage to cut it then because Arya went off to sleep. So we took the cake along - i was mighty surprised with that. Hehe, then the cake was left behind in the cab, and K tried hard to get it back. Usually he would have just let it go, but he told me to go ahead to the restaurant and waited outside himself. Arya and me went to the restaurant and I saw Kausar, Karim, Maya and Viren. I really thought to myself - wow, what a coincidence, on a week night too! and then they got up and said Happy Birthday, I was just speechless and saw that they were sitting at a much longer table waiting for others to arrive. Then came Rajani, Mitesh, Tulika Nandu and Adu, Vinod and Veena (who were very late) and everyone's bachchas (kids) I was just so overwhelmed, I had no idea. These are all people I talk to on a daily basis and yet no one divulged anything. K's master stroke was that no blood relative of mine knew anything so Arya and Adu were not in on the secret, cos as per him, these 2 wouldn't have been able to keep it from me - hehe, that is true. And I am glad I was well and truly surprised.

What a wonderful birthday!

Friday, July 13, 2007

Phuket

Life has been busy. It's just one thing after another until you feel the days all merge into one. K's been travelling a lot, so much so that Arya and I sometimes forget whether he is in town or still travelling. She had vacations and so it was hard to keep her occupied and keep up with all the late night telecons and volunteer work and social butterfly stuff (I feel more like a social sloth at this moment)
It was summer and a vacation had to be taken so we flew off to Phuket. Now we can say "Been there, done that" We spent two glorious days on Patong Beach and one day souvenir shopping, checking out local attractions and basically doing nothing. Arya was in love with our hotel, the Holiday Inn. She spent a substantial part of our 3 day vacation in the Swimming Pool - she especially loved the wave pool.
One consistent strain for every vacation is that Arya embarks on a new place and has to find the souvenir shop to buy gifts for all her friends. Now this was a fine quality (meant to be encouraged) when we went on a 3 week vacation to Europe or a 2 week vacation to San Diego, with ample opportunity. Plus you can really understand the fact that she is missing her friends when you have been away for weeks, or that she wants to tell them - "I thought of you when I was away"
But in Phuket, and with the 3 precious days that we had, I wasn't willing to go up and about and look for the perfect gifts for all her friends when the sun, the sand and the sea was just beckoning.
However, Arya got her way as usual. She bought some colorful wooden frogs for them. It is really very sweet of her to think of her friends all the time. Without any expectations too. None of her friends actually reciprocate in kind, hehe!
The other highlight of our trip was Phuket Fantasea...I should call it a lowlight actually. This was touted as Phuket's answer to Disneyland and seemingly had everything that Disneyland did except Mickey Mouse. However, when we landed up there (after having paid Disneyland prices for entry) we realised that we had been had. The thrilling adventure rides and games were nothing but "ring toss" or "shoot the balloons", the oodles of shopping was nothing but overpriced souvenirs and really glitzy and garish jewellery shops. Oh, did I say overpriced already? And then there was the "Biggest Buffet in the World" What did you expect? Oh no, it was not the largest array of dishes that you have ever seen. By biggest they meant seating capacity. 4000 people can be accomodated in that hall. Imagine 4000 people waiting in line for a dismal spread.
Everything that could be charged for as "extra" was. This is what I hate about developing nations, everyone wants to make a fast buck. Leaves a really bad taste.
Now, we were hoping that the grand finale to the evening would make the whole episode worth it (and we wouldn't feel like complete fools) But alas! They made us leave our phones and cameras at a security desk, only so that if you wanted pics with the animals inside you'd have to buy them. The show itself was more glitz and garish costumes. The animals came on stage and went off. Any roadside circus in India has better animal performances or acrobatics. Anyway, saving grace was that Arya enjoyed herself. As we were trudging out, secretly trying to take our minds off the fact that we had just been duped, we saw some baby elephants waiting to be fed. Of course Arya wanted to feed them and of course, they were charging 200 baht for it. So we said - Fine...and bought bananas and sugarcane (which would actually cost about 20 baht at best) for the pleasure of feeding the elephants and Kushal was trying to take her picture when the mahouts generously asked us to pose with her - Whole family picture they said and took not one but two pictures. Just as I was about to say Thank You, they said - 100 baht...please give elephant. Sheesh!
Now of course it was not all bad. I definitely needed a break and I got it. We all emerged happy and refreshed. But I will obviously recommend that you avoid Phuket Fantasea if you ever land up there.

Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Europe again

Little did I know when we were on our idyllic Europe vacation last June that I would land up here again exactly after a year. This time I went to Amsterdam, Veldhoven, Bussum, Cologne and Munich and I am on my way tonight to London (or rather Bracknell)

There are tons and tons of new things I learnt in these couple of weeks.

Some Ahas were that Cologne and Dusseldorf are just on opposite sides of the Rhein, a mere 30 kms away from each other and there is a ferry (obviously)or hovercraft to take you across.

Also learnt that Cologne and Bonn share an airport. It's called...what else.. the Koln Bonn airport :-)

Gujjus have taken over the world. I met a bunch of them (probably a 100 or so) in a SOTC tour group in Veldhoven, which is this little suburb of Eindhoven. All that Eindhoven really has is Philips. So I am wondering what they would have come to see.

More fun facts to follow in my next post.

Tuesday, March 20, 2007

Happy Sad Feeling

I am really happy today because I had my annual review and it was all good news and my efforts were well-rewarded. But my family is not all around me, I want them at my dinner table, laughing and talking and arguing and enjoying. K is in KL, Adu is busy although she's in Sg, Atul is in SD and I can't even tell him until its time for him to wake up(hate time zones), Mummy, Papa, B.Aji are all in India, very happy, but I want to see them and I want to celebrate.
A is here, but she doesn't totally understand. I told her I got a good report card :-) She got a B2 for the first time ever today in Maths because she got stuck on one problem and lost time, couldn't complete her paper. So it wasn't exactly a good analogy - me telling her about my own glorious report card.
Guess I will watch some TV. K will be here tomorrow and then we'll go and party on Thu or Fri.

Saturday, February 24, 2007

Happy Half birthday to Anjali

It's already 6 months since my chota bhai became a baap and Anjali came into our lives. A few days ago, we saw 2 pics of her eating. Yes, she is onto cereals now. She was actually holding the spoon, which had all of us oohing and aahing. Aditi Atya was here too.
By the way, Vin did a Birthday Suprise Trip for Adu again. This time it's Bangkok. I am so happy for her.
Back here in Singapore, we had some tame CNY. This year we didn't invite a whole lot of people. Infact K was asking me why we haven't been inviting people these days. I think I am just being lazy. I did have the NUS girls over last Saturday. Sunday we went to Manisha's house. Dinner was awesome with tooooooo many different dishes. It was an impressive spread and too much variety to choose from.
I also had a surprise party for Kushal and I invited a bunch of friends. Of course, they didn't get to savor his cooking. But the surprise was a success because he was genuinely surprised. He has been working so hard. It was a well-deserved break. I wanted to invite a few others, but I wasn't completely sure of what time the birthday boy would arrive.
Our anniversary was a very dull affair as well. Naively enough, I thought I could surprise him with a Rasa Sentosa Sunday Brunch and overnight stay, but it was quite quite full even a month in advance. To top it off, he was sick as well. We managed to go out for lunch with Arya. Thai Express at Paragon. Really poor service, we were ignored for very long after getting to the table. Arya still remembered the worm in her tomato from last time. For K's birthday, we went to Pasta Fresca at Pasir Panjang with the Charis. Another disappointing restaurant. The food was godawful and we really paid through our noses for such lousy food ki kya kahen.
But yes in general, I haven't been the hostess with the mostess. I have been attending loads of parties though. Especially a lot of NUS dos.
Coming back to babies, I went to see PFT's beti on Friday with the rest of the office gang. She is such a cutie. The most distinguished feature was her impeccably combed hair. That's how she came out. All propah and not a hair out of place, and such thick hair too. GB was jealous he said :-)
And to speak of Anjali again, I really miss having her to hold and play with. Although I spent just a couple of weeks with her, it was the most awesome bond. I can barely wait to see her again in December.

Friday, February 02, 2007

So overdue

I never really recovered from the San Diego vacation to write about it.

I must say that Anjali is adorable. It was wonderful to hold her and coo to her and do silly things to make her smile. Atul said they will come to Singapore in Dec this year and I am already counting the days (months, sigh!!)

The 2 weeks with Anjali made me want another baby. More than ever.

We did a lot of fun things in SD and also in LA. We went to Disneyland where all of us had our first ever Disneyland experience and we were lucky to go there at Christmas time so that we could witness the great Xmas parade. Arya, me and mummy saw snow for the first time at Big bear lake. We went down tubing and all that. So much fun.

Arya was Anjali's fairy godmother, she did everything short of changing diapers. I gave Anjali a bath almost every night. How she hates getting water on her face!

Kushal cooked some delicious meals for all of us. Atul and Bhawana drove us around everywhere. They needed 2 cars to fit in everyone, car seats et al.

We checked out the Y! office in SD, do you know they have real orange trees in the courtyard. We picked oranges and ate them on our roadtrip to Big Bear, hehe. Just the sheer glee of it all.

And we all shopped a great deal but not as much as we would have loved too. There was just too much to do.

Atul gave Arya a lot of love and a lot of grief, she became Adu's replacement as the object of his affection and teasing. We did miss Adu several times during the 2 weeks and wished she could have come as well. We taught Arya to play gadav, 5-3-2 and 7-8s.

We went to a lot of parties Atul's office party, etc. Arya was always hovering around Anjali playing the role of the protective older sibling.

For Arya particularly, this trip was so cool, because she got to see zoos galore. The wild animal park in San Diego is really so fascinating. We saw a lot of animals even in the puny Big Bear Zoo that we hadn't seen before. Badgers, skunks, and the like. The world-famous San Diego zoo is not half as good as the Singapore zoo, but hey, it was a zoo and Arya was in raptures.

We also went for the first time to a Costco, and it was amazing to see. Quite a wonder!

So I came back and rubbed off the saying on my cube - When was the last time you did something for the first time? There were so many firsts we did on this trip. And they were all so overdue, like this post is.

Tuesday, November 28, 2006

Movie Mania and Food Feast

For me, it was 3 movies in a row. I watched Happy Feet with Arya on Thursday, then Dhoom-2 with the whole family (aaji, vin, adu, k, a and me) on Saturday and Casino Royale with K on Monday.

Of all the movies, I found D-2 the coolest. I loved Hrithik's dance moves, Abhishek should not have danced in the movie. Poor AB. He didn't get much of a chance to act and that's the stuff he's really good at and what he should stick to doing.

Casino Royale - K described it at the Best Bond movie ever. Coming from K, who is quick to criticize, I think that's high praise.

Happy Feet - A's personal fav. She even did the Tappy Tappy Dance when she was out of the cineplex.

On Sat, we also were part of a real life movie :-) T and N celebrated their 20th Wedding Anniv and Prabha got them the Tamil shaadi wala clothes, so T in a navari and N in a pattu, it was sweet and funny. We took lots of pics and celebrated with them until 2 am, with nice Italian khana (gnocchis, lasagna, bruschetta,risotto and crepes) and Tiramisu to top it off.

And on Sun, we went to the new Crystal Jade at Taka lev 2. It's all Black and red and looks very pricey (it is) but the food is oh-so-delicious. They have exotic stuff there, Australia lobsters, full cream crabs, pigeons, ducks, what not. We had some very well-cooked beef steaks, rice cakes with minced meat, noodles in a cream soup with lots of veggies and kung pao (my fav) But surprise, surprise, I ate that last of all. Arya made sure that we visited the CJ toilet as well, which is very regal, alongwith the food and decor. She has a penchant for visiting regal toilets. I am never going to forget the Cafe Royale at Paris. But, I digress.

In the evening, K made Kathi rolls....mouthwatering and just the right street food flavour. Yummm.

Friday, November 24, 2006

Happy Feet Treat

Yesterday Arya got a special treat from me. We watched the first day, first show of Happy Feet. She has been working hard for her tests which concluded yesterday. This was a nice treat for her. She thoroughly enjoyed the movie, I was watching her laughing and munching popcorn and sipping coke. She said she had a great time and thanked me very much. I wanted to take her to the library at Jurong Point but we found out that it was closed. So then we went to the Jurong Regional Library. We reached 15 minutes before closing time and hurriedly borrowed the required books and left. Arya was frantic. She thought they would lock us up inside. She is so funny. We took a cab home. It was a perfect kind of day.

Monday, November 20, 2006

Weekend full of fun

This weekend was what Arya's dreams are made of.

On Friday, we went to a birthday party. One of her friends turned 8. It was a bbq party. She had great fun, climbed on some pillars, sat on some really high up planks of wood (quite dare-devilish for her). Good food and the cake was Ariel.

We had our own bbq party on Saturday. All my colleagues got together at FC. We had a wonderful spread of food and drinks and K's kebabs were a hit as usual. He had prawns on skewers and chicken reshmi kebabs. A was bored for a while until the kids showed up. Then she got real pally with a girl called Alison, and both of them requested to be excused from the party so that they could go upstairs and play in A's room. After Alison left, she didn't miss a beat and started running around and playing with Greg's twins. She even managed to scream a couple of times when they were playing Tag. The change in her was quite stunning and I am really glad. I discovered that she is a fast runner after all ;-)

And then yesterday night, we had dinner at another colleague's house. He has a wonderful family, but no kids Arya's age so she was worried and asked if she could take a book along to read. Turned out that they have a dog - a puppy really who's big enough to knock Arya down, called Aella. So Arya was more than thrilled.

Asked her which she enjoyed the most - Aella won hands down.

Thursday, November 02, 2006

Keep Walking

I had excuses and excuses. My walking mates, Tulika and Adu were both out of town. It was Diwali and I had faral to prepare. I had a bad cold for 2 weekends. K was home early. We watched a ton of movies thanks to our new Videoezy membership. And most of all, the haze was out there.

But finally yesterday, under perfect weather conditions (there was a cool breeze after the evening thunderstorm) Tulika and I were walking again. It felt good to finally get some form of exercise. I have been feeling F-A-T.

Monday, October 30, 2006

Arya at Hogwarts

K and I went shopping for a Black witch hat and then I stitched sleeves on a little black cocktail dress which once belonged to Aditi. We tied a Black satin ribbon all along the length of our old broom handle and voila - we had a student ready for Hogwarts!
We couldn't really get onto Platform 9 3/4 but we managed to get Arya into Jyothi's car to get her to the Witches and Wizards party at Mehek's place. She was looking really cute. Atul and gang saw her on video conference. She didn't look evil (with that face, who would?) or spooky. She really just looked like your regular Hogwarts first year student, would have given Hermoine Granger a run for her money.
K and I went to see Don Saturday night with Jo and Shantanu. Kids were happy to have a sleepover at Diya's place. I really liked the movie - but I am biased. Don was my favourite movie when it released.

Saturday, October 28, 2006

Old Habits die hard

I almost let K go to a drinks and dinner with his work friends - Alone! I thought I could do it. And then at the very last minute, I said, oh, I think I will join you.
Can't I ever ever ever give up an opportunity to go out? I wasn't feeling too well. This freaky cold which started like a haze allergy just keeps coming back to me. I think I must have sneezed a hundred times - enough for K to carry 4 panadols (in case I needed them) and to enquire about the state of my health twice.
It was a fun evening. But then I had a coffee before we started out and I couldn't sleep, so when we got back, I watched a movie - it had J.Aniston in it so K wouldn't watch it for the world, and what did I do cos I was watching the movie alone? Made myself 3 more cups of coffee, that's what I did. It's Stupid with the Capital S.
And now I am up all night while the rest of the house is in deep slumber. Still miserable with my cold, part of me hating the fact that I can't get sleep, part of me enjoying this alone time where I can do what I do best - write!
Pages and pages of inspiration.
Seriously, I better get started on that book I have left half done. Since my job change, I haven't had a moment to think abt the book.
Anyway - just for the record. The hot coffee didn't offer me any relief from my runny nose. I think I should just have some cognac!

Saturday, October 14, 2006

Parents are cast in the Same Mould

Arya's Annual Day Function Today. Their bus came to pick them up early. The parents are supposed to go later in the evening for the show.

I was preparing Diwali faral. Proud to say that I completed narlipak and shankarpali, and also made gajar halwa (not really for Diwali but for today). What I am trying to say is that I was very dishevelled, my hair was a complete mess and I don't think I even got a chance to wash my face, as I hurriedly changed and went down to look at the kids. I wanted to see all of them in their costumes.

First I met Rosa Ana with a videocamera and then Shantanu and Jyothi with their camera and then Nandu and Tulika. It seems as if all the parents wanted to see all the kids. It's heartening to know that parents are cast in the same mould all over the world. J commented that after this grand send-off today, we might hear them expecting the same treatment everyday :-)

They were all looking so adorable!

Friday, October 13, 2006

Kahaan gaye woh din…sigh!

Lately, Arya has been different.

She’s no longer shy or reticent. She seems very poised and confident. She makes humorous dinner-time conversation. Like yesterday at the dinner table, Baby aji pointed out that she’s become naughtier than before. She said she hadn’t and went on to say that earlier when Baby Aji asked her to do something she’d refuse by saying “No” and nowadays she doesn’t say “No”. So I asked her, slyly, “So when Baby aji asks you to do something, do you do it?” She said, “YES!” and then sheepishly said, “Sometimes” and we all laughed and laughed till our sides ached.

But going back to all the things she used to do that she doesn’t.

She no longer wants to come and sleep in our room, even when we call her. There was a time when not only did she insist in sleeping in our room, but she also wanted to sleep in the middle. She pronounced it MEEDEEL. It was so sweet. At night, when she was fast asleep, we would smile at each other, and slowly move her to one side. She had this uncanny radar sense as well. She’d realize if there’s no one on the bed and she’d wake up and go look for us immediately. All of this wanting to sleep with us waned to “Sleep with me until I fall asleep” and then “tell me a story to help me sleep by myself” to “Sleep with me for 5 minutes and then you can go to your own room” But now the biggul (big girl) no longer wants to sleep in our room, even if we invite her to. So much so that even when Kushal is on a business trip, and I tell her to come to my bed, she says, you can sleep in my room if you want!

She used to call everyone and everything “naughty” when things didn’t go her way. So when she fell down, the ground was naughty, if her pencil point broke when she was writing, then the pencil was proclaimed naughty, if the alarm clock woke her up from slumber land, it was sleepily pronounced naughty, and if I yelled at her and made her cry, I was (you guessed it) naughty. So that’s gone, infact, quite a few years ago.

She had these nasty allergies, which made her breathless and she had to be rushed to the hospital a few times. Thank God that’s gone!

Due to the allergies, we didn’t let her play with soft toys. There were a lot of tears that day, when we threw out each and every one of her cuddly soft toys. But when we realized years later that the allergies were gone, we consented guiltily into buying her one and then another and then another. The first one which we bought, a humungous dog, which Kushal christened Mangala, was a constant companion. Arya carried Mangala every where she went, including her trips to Mumbai. Everywhere that Arya went, Mangala was sure to go, like the proverbial Mary’s little lamb. However, all of a sudden, we find Mangala cast away in a stock pile of other cuddlies. Her sad, sad, hush puppy eyes look even sadder these days. Arya has moved on meanwhile to Lord of the Ring swords and rubber dart machine guns.

Yesterday, I played a game of snakes and ladders with her and to my delight I discovered, that she doesn’t cry anymore when she gets eaten up by a “snake” and has to go back to somewhere at the bottom of the board. She also cheers for the winner even if it’s not her.

She has done some funny things in her life. Like the day we discovered her jumping up and down on her bed, actually our bed, screaming “Naynaynay Gravity” over and over again like some sort of chant. Wonder if Sir Isaac Newton demonstrated in a similar fashion, his immense pleasure when the apple fell on his head! But yesterday when I told her a fairy story about a rainbow called Happy, she cut me short saying – “Well, then Happy is really a sunbeam that’s all.”

More and more it seems like her childhood is the sand slipping through my fingers and tightening my fist doesn’t seem to help at all. Sigh! Maybe I am ready for another baby now.

Thursday, October 12, 2006

Everything that Men know about Women

One of my colleagues is very excited. His wife has lived away from him for 3 years due to her job and she's now joining our company. She's going to be in the same team, so while we were talking about when exactly she's going to join and he was telling me of how thrilled he is, he also mentioned that he hopes that the two of us (me and his wife) hit it off well. I said there wasn't any doubt of that happening as two married women usually do, since they have a lot in common. You know, the usual conversations about how inept men are and what would they ever do without their oh-so competent wives. I got a laugh out of him, so I said I'd done my Good Deed for the Day.
This brings to mind a book that Vani showed me. She said it was given to her by someone from the H Company's Boeblingen office. The title was "Everything that Men know about Women" and inside it was just that - totally blank!